Monday, November 18, 2013

Thanks Schooner

When I walk my dogs – I talk to neighbors - I ponder- I wonder - I reflect and frequently I do not always notice things.

I walk past the same houses twice a day and sometimes more frequently. One day I saw a beautiful scrub.  It had an incredible shape and I had not noticed it previously. How many times had I walked by it and missed the beauty of the fire brush?

In September one my dogs experienced a new bump in his life road and faced a major challenged. Out of the blue Schooner went blind plus he was diagnosed with diabetes and spent a couple of days in the hospital – it has a bleak and tough week for us but especially for him.

This seemed to happen all of a sudden.  On a morning walk I noticed he seemed to bump into a fence he always liked to walk near.  On the next day morning walk I noticed he looked a little confused and that he not only bumped into the fence again but when we came home he just sat in front of a cabinet and stared blanking at it.  When I got home that Sunday afternoon I could tell, for sure, my dog was blind.

The next morning I found a vet clinic with an ophthalmologist who could see him that day.  Who knew there were dog ophthalmologists?  While she was examining him I told her that I really wanted him to have a blood test.  What we learned from the tests was that not only was my dog blind but he was also severely diabetic. Again, who knew dogs could be diabetic?  It was the diabetes that caused his cataracts leading to his blindness.

After his testing at the clinic he needed to be hospitalized because his diabetes was so bad. (BTW dogs do not get diabetes from not enough exercise or too many sweets –  like we get it. Dogs get it purely through genetics.  It is totally inherited.)

The vets kept saying, “Didn’t you see any warning signs?”  I said it is hard to know warning signs when you don’t know what you are looking for.  I asked, like what kinds of warning signs? They said if he drank a lot of water and/or peed a lot.  Well, he did – but boy dogs do pee a lot so I did not think anything strange about the behavior. I know he drank more than my other dog but he is a bigger dog - I did not know that meant anything. I said to them how would I know what to look for if I did not know what I needed to look for especially if I did not think anything was wrong?

Now I can look back and identify some warning signs. I now see signs that maybe had I seen them earlier and knew what to look for previously, his health conditions might be different today.

If you would go back to a previous post on this blog cite (The Middle Way, the Balanced Classroom, June 20, 2010) I write about my two dogs Lizzie and Schooner and how I was trying to find the middle path on our walks since one would want to go one way and the other dog would want to go a different way.  Now I understand why he had preferred patterns in our walks.

I cannot move things around the house now otherwise he will bump into things and it confuses his pattern paths. There are various barricades to prevent him from falling down steps.  I worry about me falling over them and getting injured – so now I have to be more cautious. Our walks take much longer now, which sometime really tries my patience.

These are issues regarding his blindness but being diabetic also provides complications.  There has to be a regular schedule for eating and giving him his insulin shots.  He has to eat within a 12 hour timeframe and he needs his insulin shots within 20 minutes of eating. This doesn’t sound all that hard but it is – sometimes he doesn’t want to eat and although I have figure out ways to give his shots with little distractions sometimes he doesn’t like them and gets mad at me.  I have never lived such a regularly schedule life.

Schooner is lucky because, Lizzie, my other dog helps him. She stays with him and rarely leaves his side. If I leave the room for what she thinks is too long she will come to me with an expression on her face sharing that I need to go check on Schooner.  She is his little guardian angel supporting her buddy.
Through Schooner’s health our lives have all been changed and we all have a different relationship. We have developed new vocabulary with different phrases; “step down one, step down two, step down three.  Step up one.  Favorite alley.  Alley going home.”  In some ways I have always been a patient person but I am more patient now.

When we take our walks I often ponder how most of us, every day, do not notice things around us. Actually, most of our lives we do not see things that are in front of us.

Schooner’s new challenges also make me ponder how teachers and family members may not understand why children may behave as they do. They have certain patterns of behaviors that may be considered disruptive; maybe they cannot see or hear that well.  They cannot tell us because it may be the only way they know how to see or hear.  They cannot always tell us why learning is hard for them, it just is.  Some students may be ADD but it is not their fault if they are.  

Like me with Schooner, teachers do not always know what to look for or even know that we should be looking for something. So, we have to develop a new level of awareness with our eyes wide open.

 I have resolved everyday, on our walks, I will discover something I have not previously noticed and I want you to do the same.

I want you to do so also through two lenses. One is the lens as an educator.  For your reply to this blog I want you to reflect on how teachers and family members can develop ways to look for things even when they do not know what they are looking for so we do not blame the kids needlessly for something out of their control.  Identify three or four ways you can develop strategies of observing student behavior patterns, possible indicators and what may be a concern. 

For lens two, I want you to identify something new every day that we have class. It could be something in your neighborhood or on the train or riding a bike.  Write them down so you can remember them and when class is over post them on your blog.

For example, when I walk the dogs every day I have promised myself to see something in my neighborhood that I have not seen before. Maybe it is trim on a house, or a marking on a store front – now that I have developed this pattern finding something new is not all that hard to do.


As my dog struggles to learn his way around the neighborhood, the house and life I also struggle to find my way in the world to help him. The old patterns of my life and “our lives” have changed since he lost his vision and became diabetic and we are creating new patterns. I want to thank Schooner for he has made be a better person. Maybe he lost his eyesight so I might better see signs that surround me and to look at the world with my eyes more widely open.  I invite you to do the same.

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Worlds apart.... just like the earth, just like the sun


Broadway musicals were always an important part of my life.  There was a time I knew the lyrics to almost every song from every current musical.  In many ways the songs guided my life and told part of my life story at the same time telling the stories of the characters in the play. Like many songs, especially if not listened to frequently or for an extended period of time, I would sing lyrics that are somewhat similar to those intended but not the same.  Eventually my lyrics would stay with me forever and replace the original lyrics, even when I knew better.

A song from Big River The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn (1985) is such a song.  “Worlds Apart” plays clearly and frequently in my mind as an example of my unintended adaptation.

For example, the songs starts with the lyrics, “I see the same stars from my window that you see through yours, but we’re worlds apart” but for whatever reason I sing, “I see the same moon with my eyes that you see with yours, but we’re worlds apart.”  I love my lyrics and for decades they have traveled with me from living in NYC to Ohio to Wisconsin and now Illinois. Wherever I live it is hard for me to look at the moon without thinking of the song and the messages it carries.

My son and I saw the play, more than once, he loved the play. When we went to the play the first time was only six years.  At home we played the album, yes, album, all the time and played the cassette tape; yes cassette tape, when we traveled on our long car trips.  We knew the songs well and had a nice connection to each other through the music.

 A year after we saw the play the fist time we moved from NYC to Ohio.  The second summer after we moved my son started to attend a sleep away camp. He attended the same camp all the way through elementary school and middle school and then during high school he became a camp counselor.  At night when I would be outside and see the moon I would sing “I see the same moon with my eyes that you see yours” and think that even though we were not together I knew the moon connected us. So the song and the moon provided me a level of comfort.

Now almost every time when I look at the moon – many years later – I think many wonderful things. When I get out of the car after an evening class and walk from the garage to the house or when I am walking the dogs and look at the moon, I sing to myself, “I see the same moon with my eyes that you see with yours ... Einstein, the Dalia Lama, Lincoln, Rose Parks, John Lennon, Martin Luther King Junior, President Obama, my parents, my grandparents, my great grandparents, each of you and all the young adolescents and middle level teachers in the world.”  No matter where in the world  - no matter when in time, we all see or saw the same moon.  WOW!  Talk about a ponder!

In 1961 President Kennedy announced to Congress his impossible dream of sending an American safely to the moon before the end of the decade.  To most it seemed like President Kennedy was dreaming the impossible dream (opps, lyrics from another Broadway musical song).  In July 1969 both Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldrin left their footprints on the moon.  We accomplished the impossible dream.  WOW – talk about another ponder – to think that people walked on the moon, the very moon that my eyes, your eyes and eyes from all over the world and throughout time see or have seen.  At that moment in history the moon yielded power –I remember the event well – it was one of those “where were you when” moments.

 The moon does not get much attention now and it has been relegated to the back seat over time until something really cool happens like the Supermoon we had this June, a lunar eclipse, or a harvest moon.  But for me when the sun goes down and the moon comes up – I see magic and wonder - I see magic every night I see the moon. I see its connectedness to time, space, people and events. I see its oneness to everyone and everything.  I think it is unfortunate that the moon is taken for granted when it has so much unifying power.

Of course my experiences connected to the moon may be similar to others’ experiences connected to the stars and skies, the real lyrics in the song. However, I think the skies have variations and that people don’t see the same skies – although Jimi Hendric’s 1967 lyric from Purple Haze.  “Excuse me, while I kiss the sky, “ is pretty cool. 

Join me on my Broadway memory. Read the lyrics below and watch a link to a video production of the song and then share what does the magic, power, connectedness, and oneness expressed in this song mean to you, as a teacher.  Post your response on my blog, then cut, paste, and also post your response on your blog. 

Enjoy

Worlds Apart 
JIM:
I see the same stars through my window
That you see through yours
But we're worlds apart
Worlds apart
And I see the same skies through brown eyes
That you see through blue
But we're worlds apart, worlds apart
Just like the earth, just like the sun
Two worlds together are better than one
I see the sun rise in your eyes
That you see in mine
But we're worlds apart, worlds apart

HUCK:
I see the same stars through my window
That you see through yours
But we're worlds apart, worlds apart

BOTH:
And you see the same skies through brown eyes
That I see through blue
But we're worlds apart, worlds apart
Just like the earth, just like the sun
Two worlds together are better than one
I see the friendship in you eyes
That you see in mine
But we're worlds apart, worlds apart
Together, but worlds apart
And a mockingbird sings in an ol' yonder tree
Twaddle-ee ah dee dee dah dee dee dee



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gkc5ZL2jHQw

A short trailer of the play

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Standing at a Fork in the Road


There is a story from long ago about a person standing at the Fork in the Road with one path going to the left and another path going to the right.  A young child comes running down a mountain behind the Fork in the Road.  The child was yelling,  “Help me!  Help me! There is a man with a hatchet chasing me and he wants to kill me. Don’t tell him which direction I am going!”  and the child continues running.
      
Now the person standing at the Fork in the Road knows the direction the young child ran.  Not long after the child ran by the man with a hatchet came running down the mountain.  He yells at the person standing at the Fork in the Road asking, “Which direction did the child go?”  The person standing at the Fork in the Road knows which direction the child went but did not say anything.  The man with the hatchet chose a direction on his own and kept running in pursuit of the child.

The end.

We can look at it the story and know that if the person standing at the Fork in the Road told the man chasing the child which direction the child went the child will be killed but if he tells the man the other direction then he will be lying.  No matter what he would tell the man chasing the child the person standing at the Fork in the Road will have to live with the decision forever.

We know that everyday educators are constantly standing at many Forks in many Roads and we need to make sound decisions.  So, what does this story have to do with us as educators?  

Well, let us say you have a student who has not handed in homework for a few days and did not do well on a test and has missed a few days of school as well. You also know the child has an ill parent.  You and your team have a strict homework policy and it is only fair to the other students in the classes that the student who has not handed in assignments should be treated the same as other students, after all if you let one student hand in late homework then others students should also be able to hand in late homework.

Share your thoughts about the story of the person standing at the Fork in a Road and connect to it at least one possible dilemma as an educator you may face.  Write how you might determine your decisions based on your dilemma.